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She left trails of
smile and sparkle
everywhere she went.

Which was good and bad.

Made people glad
to see her come
and glad to see her go.

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Once upon a few days ago, there was a Young Maiden who faced a medical procedure that scared the bejesus – I’m talking the out-and-out bejesus – out of her. She is, you see, a professional actor and singer (which means her voice is her instrument) and this procedure of which I speak is a biopsy of her thyroid. If you’ll run your fingers up and down the center of your neck you’ll be tactically, acquainted with the spot your thyroid calls home. To have Strangers – no matter how proficient and well-trained they are (and they are) – stick a big, long, shiny, sharp needle stuck into your throat while you’re wide awake is, as you can surely imagine, a Very Scary Proposition.

This Young Maiden and her Mother The Crone, expressed her anxiety to the surgeon, who, I hasten to assure you, is A Fantastic, Crackerjack Surgeon, but a woman who thinks and speaks and lives in words of science, not feelings, which caused the anxiety to rise to flooding proportions.

Unbeknownst to The Maiden, Her Mother The Crone emailed her primary care physician – we’ll call him Frank – and her uncle – we’ll call him Donn – to implore their help. Both are wicked caring, intelligent men who do not dismiss such things as depression and anxiety and panic attacks as the marking of the dreaded hysterical woman; know the value of kindness in the healthcare arena; and have taken significant measures to provide a higher than you can imagine level of kindness and caring.

Ordinarily this is where I’d beseech you to pray or petition the goddesses or send positive thoughts and energy with The Young Maiden’s name (which happens to be Alison) and all her medical staff on it tomorrow around 11 a.m. Eastern time as she undergoes the biopsy. And I certainly would appreciate all the goodness you can muster and spare in whatever form best suits you.

I’m also wondering . . . What If instead of keeping it on the plane of thought, we put it into practice? What If we – each and every one of us – follow the lead of Frank and Donn and perform at least one act of above and beyond/outside the norm kindness – be the beneficiaries known or unknown to us – on Thursday 8/6/15 to honor the two of them, support the entire medical team, and gently hold Alison by filling the world with goodness. If you’re in – and I certainly hope you are – maybe you’ll leave your story in the comments here or over in the world of facebook.

Even if I never know who you are or what you do to lend support, Thank you. From the bottom of my mother’s heart . . . Thank you.

(I’ll let you know how it turns out.)

It was a mid-century ranch house, red brick with charcoal-colored mortar and trim that changed color every two or three years when it was painted. If you entered by way of the back door and took two steps to the left, you stood smack dab in front of the refrigerator. Though spacious to us, it was undoubtedly small by today’s standards. Our kitchen had the usual features: stove, oven, double white porcelain sinks with separate spray attachment, white dishwasher, white refrigerator, but where my mother made it Her kitchen was the table. She designed a restaurant-style booth with oilcloth-covered-for-easy-cleaning padded seats that hugged two of the wallpaper clad walls. The triangle-shaped table was covered in shiny white formica with the gold starburst pattern.

Daddy’s assigned seat was right across from the refrigerator, and to his left sat my brother Jerry (or J3 I call him). To J3’s left was my sister Jan, and as the oldest child and a teen to boot, I took the seat nearest the white rotary dial wall-mounted telephone. Mother, as you might imagine, had the seat of honor, trading off responsibility for fetching seconds for a chair and an entire side of the table to call her own.

One Wednesday night during supper, Mother mentioned that she’d agreed to house some visiting teenagers over the coming weekend. “You did what?” Daddy asked, talking with his mouth full. (He knew better.)

“Well, last week at Sunday School they asked who would be willing to take in some visiting teenagers this weekend, and before I could stop myself, I raised my hand,” she said, “so we’ll be having some missionary kids staying with us this weekend.”

Now Mother and Daddy both worked outside the home – Daddy was the entrepreneur who designed, built, and owned golf courses while Mother worked for the local Board of Education, bringing home the steady paycheck and insurance. Both of them being so busy and all could quite possibly explain why Mother forgot to mention one teensy little detail to Daddy . . . or maybe she did mention it and Daddy forgot. We’ll never know for sure, but one thing we know with absolute certainty: communication could have been better.

The next day after school, Mother handed me the car keys along with a 20-dollar bill and told me, “Jeanne, I want you to run out to Greenbriar and get me something religious looking.” The only religious looking thing I could find in that entire mall was a little ceramic loaf of bread branded with the words “Our Daily Bread” and filled with colorful strips of paper sticking out of the top.

The missionary kids got there just in time to join us for supper Friday night. We all took our usual seats, directed the visitors to the two chairs pulled in from the dining room, and Daddy kicked things off like he always did by reaching over to spear him a piece of meat. Mother slapped his hand and said, “Crawford. You know better than that. We haven’t had Our Daily Bread yet. We always start with that.”

“Our WHAT?” Daddy asked.

“Our Daily Bread,” Mother purred while shoving the container of colorful paper in his direction. “Why don’t you start us off?” When he just sat there looking at her with his mouth hanging wide open, she reached in, pulled out a red slip of paper, and handed it to him. “Read us what’s on it, Crawford.”

Daddy somehow read the words off that red paper while continuing to glare at Mother, and as soon as he was finished, Mother quickly suggested we ask one of the visiting missionary kids to ask the blessing.

Though he never warmed to the idea of kicking off each meal by reading a colorful slip of paper from a ceramic loaf of bread, Daddy did warm to the missionary kids. “Y’all want to take a ride with me on my motorcycle after lunch?” he asked them on Saturday, a question we children had certainly never been asked, a question that left us with that same open mouth glare we’d seen on his face the night before.

The religious looking Our Daily Bread mysteriously disappeared late Sunday afternoon right after the missionary kids left town, and I always thought they stole it took it home with them to sell on the black market as a souvenir . . . until I opened my birthday present one year to find – drum roll please – the original religious-looking Our Daily Bread.

And no, we don’t keep it on our table.
And no, we don’t start each meal by reading a colorful slip of paper from it.
And no, you can’t have it. Not even for your birthday.

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I’m penning 100 stories in 100 days (#100Days100Stories). There’ll be personal history, made-up stories, and I don’t know what all. If you’d like to get a helping’ of my daily potluck, mash the button in the orange box at the top of the screen and subscribe, why don’t you.

By day, she’s your basic ordinary lamp with all the right lamp parts: a base, a switch, a bulb. She’s pretty enough, in that unassuming high class kind of way, her love for the Victorian era evident in the clothes she wears.

For as long as anyone can remember, you can find her there on the creaky white wicker nightstand that won’t stay steady no matter how many napkins you fold up and put under that one leg, her days spent reflecting the light and colors and images of those who come close. Never bad to attract attention to herself, she silently perches there, always ready and waiting for Someone In Need to happen along and flip her switch to own.

“Selfless,” they call her.
“A bit eccentric with those old dresses she wears, but she’s so nice,” they cluck.
“She never makes trouble, and she helps a lot of people,” they say.
“I know her like the back of my hand, and she is a good lamp,” more than one person assures whoever will listen.
“A lamp unto feet and a light unto paths – is there any higher calling?” they ask no one in particular.

She knows they say all these things, and while it’s definitely a good reputation to have and one that brings no shame to her family, this life spent being dependable and helpful and easy going simply isn’t Enough. So by night, when all anybody needs is their own closed eyelids to project their dreams on, when she knows she won’t be interrupted save for maybe a dark:thirty sleep-walking trip to the bathroom, she tattoos the bland walls of that room with beauty the likes of which you’ve never seen before.

I tell you what: it’ll take your breath away, the beauty that lamp creates when she cuts loose and lets her own light beam, and even though she knows there’s a chance nobody will ever see the art she makes, it doesn’t matter cause it’s the making that fills her soul, and that is most definitely Enough.

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I’m penning 100 stories in 100 days. Why? Because neuroplasticity being what it is and all, we know that repeated focus has life-changing power, and I’ve a hankering for just such a thing. I’m calling it #100Days100Stories, and if you want it to land on your doorstep every morning (relax, I never break a window), maybe you want to subscribe by following the directions in the orange stripe at the top of this screen. Of course I’m still stitching, too, so many of the stories will feature my Hymns of Cloth.